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I wrote the following post a few weeks ago for Engage:Moms and thought the time was right to share it with Mom Market Trends readers:

Candy and flower sellers, beware. What you offer is not what moms really want for Mother’s Day.

To get a feel for what was really important on this special day, we polled 70 moms.  The results offer some insight into how moms think.

Despite the fact that moms so often say they are overworked, totally stressed and desperately in need of time for themselves, Mother’s Day is clearly not the day they want to take it. Fifty moms said they wanted to spend that time with their families rather than on their own.  When it came to how to spend that family time, 50% more moms preferred “just hanging out at home” (30 moms) to “brunch” (20 moms) as their favorite Mother’s Day activity. Only a few opted for movies or shopping. Other plans for the day included walks on the beach, going to the park, cookouts, picnics and short trips.

Moms who preferred to spend time alone opted 2:1 for “doing something just for me” over “doing nothing but relaxing.”  For moms who wanted to do something special for themselves, pampering was the name of the game: 22 opted for massages, just edging out manicures and pedicures. When asked what Mother’s Day gifts they would most like to receive, moms chose “help around the house” far more frequently than the alternatives: brunch, dinner, flowers or jewelry.

Not a single mom wanted to spend the day “catching up” or “with friends.” Interestingly, only two said they wanted to spend the day with their own moms.

Yet when queried about which moms inspired them most, 44 cited their own moms, while most others mentioned other family members and even friends. Celebrity moms – Hillary Clinton, Anne Romney, Michelle Obama and Angelina Jolie — received a total of 16 votes. Mrs. Obama led the pack, while Hillary and Angelina each received one vote. No votes here for Anne Romney – but with five sons of her own, she won’t exactly be lacking for attention on Mother’s Day.

Moms love Pinterest.

The hottest new social media program around, Pinterest is a “virtual pinboard” that allows users to create online collections of things they love and share those graphics and accompanying content easily with others. Moms can create “boards” on the Pinterest site, then “pin” original graphics they have created or “repin” graphics found on others’ Pinterest boards or elsewhere online.  The program enables them to discover, group and share everything from crafts to home décor to favorite fashions.

TechCrunch recently crowned Pinterest 2011’s “Best New Start Up,” and in February alone, Pinterest saw 16.23 million unique users.  TechCrunch also reported that 80% of Pinterest’s user base is female.

With that as background, at Child’s Play, we decided to go a step further and see exactly how interest in Pinterest played out specifically among moms.  Feedback from 250 moms across the country not only showed that many moms were using the program, but how and why. Key findings:

• 96.7% of moms surveyed (all active bloggers) said they were using Pinterest.
• Top 5 reasons why:
  • It’s just fun (90.0%)
  • I like organizing my interests (67.8%)
  • I like looking at beautiful things (67.0%)
  • Makes my blog, Website, Facebook or Twitter stream more interesting (55.7%)
  • It helps me drive traffic to my blog or Web site (53.5%)
• About the same number (68.0% vs. 65.3%) said they used Pinterest on their blog and on Facebook, respectively.
• The number of Pinterest boards each mom had ran from a low of 1 to a high of 83, averaging out at 18.
• “Food/recipes” was by far (91.4%) the category/subject moms pinned the most. Others in the top 5 were “Crafts” (74.5%), “Home Décor” (55.5%) “How-To” (52.7%), and “Fashion” (39.5%).
• Fewer than half of moms (42.3%) used Pinterest to plan events, with 78.7% of that number planning a child’s birthday party.
• Interestingly, of the moms surveyed, only 4.1% just pinned original graphics, 5.5% only repinned others’ graphics, and the vast majority (94.5%) did a combination of both, with a quarter (25.1%) also creating original graphics specifically for pinning.
• About two-thirds of moms (66.5%) both pinned when they came across something of interest and pro-actively searched for items to pin.
• Moms’ top sources for repins:
  • Blogs of friends (65.5%)
  • Craft sites (49.0%)
  • Foodies (45.0%)
  • Their own blog (40%)

For marketers, Pinterest presents an opportunity to connect with moms by offering tantalizing visuals for them to pin and repin and creating Pinterest-based contests and other interactive activities to further engage this audience. This approach not only develops an additional social media connection but, because pins link back to their source, also drives incoming links to the brand’s online presence, impacting SEO.

Asked who was doing the best job among companies currently engaged on Pinterest, moms mentioned Land’s End, Kraft Foods, Real Simple, Totsy, Home Depot and Disney Family Fun, among others. Kudos were given to those who pinned a variety of topics both from their own sources and others, who offered helpful recipes and who added great photos.

As the mother of a boy-child now grown to a young man, I had to share an article that appeared in this weekend’s Wall Street Journal . It’s based on a new book by Kate Stone Lombardi titled “The Mama’s Boy Myth,” all about how it’s really OK for a mom and her son to be as close as a mom and her daughter. This is despite the fact that:

“For generations, mothers have gotten one message: that keeping their sons close is wrong, possibly even dangerous. A mother who fosters a deep emotional bond with her son, we’ve been told, is setting him up to be weak and effeminate — an archetypal mama’s boy. He’ll never be independent or able to form healthy adult relationships.”

Lombardi notes that while we have dramatically changed the way we’ve raised our daughters in recent generations, the old myths still apply when it comes to sons.  “Daddy’s girls” are good, “mama’s boys” are bad.

According to the book,  the idea of a close relationship doing damage to our sons is nonsense and there has never been scientific evidence to support the negatives.  In fact a study of more than 400 middle school boys showed that sons who were close to their mothers were less likely  to define masculinity as being physically tough,  stoic and self-reliant and “not only remained more emotionally open, forming stronger friendships, but they also were less depressed and anxious than their more macho classmates. And they were getting better grades.”

Moms, what about it? Is it OK to be as connected to your sons as to your daughters? Are you raising your boys and girls in the same way, or holding yourself back when it comes to your sons?

For the complete story, visit http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203960804577241610532233188.html?mod=WSJ_LifeStyle_Lifestyle_5.

Twins are the new trend when it comes to U.S. births. As of 2009, the last figure available, 1 in every 30 babies born here was a twin, compared to 1 in 53 in 1980, according to a recent Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report.

The twin birth rate rose by more than 2% a year, on average, from 1980 through 2004, leveling off briefly that year to less than 1% annually then rising nearly 2% again from 2008 to 2009.

In 2009, twin rates increased in all 50 states, with the most significant jumps in lower New England, New Jersey and Hawaii. In Connecticut, twins now account for nearly 5% of births.

Nationally, 3.3% of all births were twins in 2009, up from 2% in 1980.

The greatest increase in twin rates was for women 40 and older. They are more likely to use fertility treatments and to have two embryos implanted during in vitro fertilization, whereas younger women are more likely to get just one.

About 7% of all births for women 40 and older were twins, compared to 5% of women in their late 30s and 2% of women age 24 or younger.

Rates doubled for whites, rose by half for blacks and by about a third for Hispanics. Historically, black moms have twins most often, but white moms have almost caught up.

Are you a mom of twins? In what way has that influenced your purchasing decisions? Marketers, are any of you focusing on this growing market?

We’ve all heard the terms bridezilla, ecotourism, and juvenescent (right?)…but what about brattle? Dictionary.com gives brattle the unbiased definition “to scamper noisily.” Lizzie Skurnick’s “That Should Be A Word” column in last week’s New York Times Magazine gives brattling a new definition: “to discuss one’s children, often at length.” We somehow didn’t think she was giving the word a positive connotation and our suspicions were confirmed after reading her definitions for spamily (Facebook or Twitter updates about kids) and spawntourage (a group of approaching strollers).

Do you agree that incessant chatter about kids is annoying or should Ms. Skurnick lighten up? And do you ever brattle about your own kids?

 A few weeks ago, I posted about how companies can and should recognize bloggers for good work by considering them for paid opportunities, whether blogger ambassadorships, content-writing gigs, consulting projects, or fulltime employment. The post made the point that after a blogger has established her street cred by blogging well about your products, for no charge, it’s time to look for ways to validate and expand that relationship.

Now I’d like to talk about what bloggers can and should do to position themselves for those opportunities. In fact, that was the topic of a panel presentation I participated in at last week’s BlogHer, called  “Minding Your Own Business: Bad Blogger Pitches (The Other Side of the PR-Blogger Relationship).”

The most important thing a blogger must do to be taken seriously by a brand is: be professional.

In an effort to best illustrate what agencies and brands consider professional, I’d like to share 5 examples of what is NOT:

1. Complaining in social media about PR people. I mean, REALLY. Fact is, you never know where we may wind up — one day a lowly publicist at an agency, the next head of PR at a company you’d kill to work with. We’re your gateway to opportunities. Don’t slam the door.
2.  Grousing about 1) not being asked to review a specific product 2) not being invited to an event 3) everything. Do the math. There are thousands of mom bloggers out there. We can’t send you all products and we can’t invite you to every event, unless they all take place at Madison Square Garden.
3. Opting in to review a product and then not reviewing it. And not bothering to tell us you’re not going to review it. Or why. Or not returning our email or call when we ask, politely, for feedback. Or reviewing it in March when it was sent to you for Christmas. And is no longer on the market. Making your post worthless.
4. Posting a review and getting all the facts wrong. Minor points such as the spelling of the client’s name, the price or the link.
5. RSVPing to an event and then not showing up, with no notice beforehand or apology afterward. Which is even worse than cancelling the night before, after all the arrangements have been made, and all those extra meals, products, massages, etc., have already been paid for, in advance, as you would for a wedding. Dropping out is not only unprofessional, but just plain rude.

To the professionals out there — you know who you are.  Keep it up–we love you and will bend over backward to find great opportunities for you. To the rest, my best advice is: Follow their lead.