Comments on: Dirty Little Secrets

By: Stephanie Azzarone, President, Child's Play Communications

Stephanie Azzarone, President, Child's Play Communications — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 19:06:05 +0000

Angie, I think you really summed it up beautifully: Mothering IS a difficult job — no doubt about it. At the same time, to me it has always been the best job in the world — and one that I am ever grateful to have (Hey, CollegeBoy, are you listening? Call me!). I also feel that perfection is not the human state — that yes, we really should try hard to be the best moms we can be, but shouldn’t beat ourselves up for our failings. As you said, taking help when it’s offered is healthy for everyone. And by the way, that “judgmental” thing has been around as far back as I can remember — I can’t believe that, after a generation, working moms and stay at home moms, e.g., are still not at a point where they can fully respect each other’s choices. And your point about not changing a thing — same here, and that’s AFTER enduring his teen years!

By: Stephanie Azzarone, President, Child's Play Communications

Stephanie Azzarone, President, Child's Play Communications — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 20:12:21 +0000

I LOVE hearing back on this topic. It’s clearly one that mothers feel strongly about.

By: jodifur

jodifur — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 01:50:40 +0000

I thought the Oprah was terrible. I thought it was a bunch of people whining with nothing constructive to say. I even wrote a whole post about it-

http://jodifur.com/2009/04/why-i-think-oprah-was-wrong.html

By: Angie @ 5VinezMonkeys

Angie @ 5VinezMonkeys — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 13:59:20 +0000

I agree with the fact that moms need to support each other. Mothering IS a difficult job, and we shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help when we need it. If someone offers to make you a meal or help you with laundry – take them up on it! Don’t put on the “Super Mom” persona and try to do it all yourself. You’ll run yourself into the ground.

I wish that someone had told me how judgmental people would be about my parenting choices. I have a large family, and I constantly hear that people never would have had that many kids. We homeschool – people judge about that, too. I nurse my baby – I get judged for that, too. I vaccinate all of my children – and I get judged for it too. I named one of our sons Zander, and I got nothing but crap from people about that. I just wish I had been a little more prepared about how mean people can be.

I love being a mom, and even though it is – by far! – the most demanding job I have ever had, I honestly wouldn’t change a thing. I am so blessed and choose to be thankful for what I have rather than complain about everything I could have if I didn’t have kids.

By: jennydecki

jennydecki — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 04:16:42 +0000

I agree completely. I’ve always been up front about how much being a parent to preschoolers absolutely blows, but always get responses like, “Don’t wish it away…”

Please. If I could go back to before I had kids there are so many things I’d want to do when I was young and still looked passable in a bathing suit I may have never HAD kids.

I like my kids, don’t get me wrong, but I find the more they act like humans and the less they act like little raving lunatics it’s easier to like them. Love? Well, they have these cute little smiles…(even if they are sometimes evil smiles…)